E-Newsletter, May 2010
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5 COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION STATEMENTS
- I dont know.
- I need your help.
- I am so sorry.
- I was wrong.
- I have a question.
CHERECOACH QUESTION THAT COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Who do I need to talk to today and ask for what I want?
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TASTE LIFE EXAMPLES FROM REAL PEOPLE
A COACHING CLIENT WRITES ABOUT A CARING CONVERSATION WITH HIS WIFE
Mary and I were discussing my job transition and I again suggested that we use my time off to take a month long trip that has been on the table for years. About 45 minutes later, she had a great new idea that we take the trip this year. I used the non violent communication formula to state the problem, that I feel hurt and that I need to be heard. I asked that in the future when we have a discussion, that she acknowledge she listened and understood my suggestion. I made it very conversational and she was shocked that I felt she hadn't heard me the other times Ive mentioned the trip; she was still digesting the suggestion and hadn't come to an opinion for herself. And, that was it, we could move on and I didn't feel defeated. Thanks Chere!
NANCY, A TASTE LIFE SUBSCRIBER, WRITES:
Chere, Loved your Taste Life email-I always find it so up-lifting! You are such an inspiration and positive person! What a gal! I feel lucky and grateful to know you. When are you attending another timeshare gathering? Thanks!
Gary and I have owned a timeshare in Waikiki since we honeymooned there in 1982. Nancy and her bridegroom started the Midwest Timeshare Owners Group. If you own a timeshare and want to learn more about this group contact Nancy at email@example.com or 612-756-1269
ANNE, A HAPPY HEALTHY COACHING CLIENT WRITES:
Hi Chere, Just a quick update.......since we met about five years ago I've met the following goals:
- Sold my old home and built a new charming home with a landscaped yard using my own money.
- Met and will marry my EH soulmate this July after 4 years of long distance dating.
- Am three pounds away from my dream weight of 135 pounds and I'm 5'6" so this is the least I've weighed since 9th grade. I'm 47 now.
- Have two kids that will graduate this year and next from college with $15,000 in school loans which we'll pay off for them.
- My children are happy and healthy despite having a father who gave me sole custody during divorce because of his inability to parent.
- Am living a life with many FUN trips (10 last summer) on my income. Have added fun weekends things to do even with visiting my very sick father every weekend at the ICU.
- YOUR FIRST COACHING SESSION taught me that I could do something TODAY (clean the garage in preparation for selling my $500,000 home in a small town during this recession which I did at a huge profit without the realtor) to improve my life. Then to focus on other five goals and figure out what to do in small increments to logically meet my goals. And it worked in all five cases. So, now my life is sooooo good that the biggest stressor is that sometimes my job is too boring.
Thanks for helping me find a balance and healthy perspective in my life by helping me sort out what ENERGIZES me and that I have the right to make my own such choices in my life. I had HOPE, a DREAM and a COACH to guide the way. Anne
Does anyone know what you want until you tell them?
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OPEN YOUR MOUTH SO YOU WONT GAIN WEIGHT
Memorial Day is almost here. Summer! Yes! Summer is synonymous with cabins, boating, and eating, eating, and more eating. What if this summer your good intentions to get fit or have a healthy diet really became reality? A healthy diet isnt about not eating your favorite foods. It all starts with your beliefs and your choices.
Linda, a 90 day life makeover coaching client, hired me to lose twenty pounds and wanted to start playing tennis again. Her short term goals included developing strategies to eat right that worked for her and her family. Her long term goals were to reorganize her house, lose fifty pounds without being on a diet, develop a coaching business and plan regular vacations.
She discovered that she could eat by choice not chance. We created small weekly goals for fitness, nutrition and stress. For example, eating protein for breakfast, eating 2 veggies a day, and going on a walk a day. With these small changes Linda happily lost weight and felt she was in charge of her life EXCEPT for her neighbors cupcakes. My neighbor brought over 6 cupcakes from a fancy cupcake place. The frosting tasted like a stick of butter and it was not worth my calories." Yes, our environment is stronger than our will. If I had cupcakes with butter cream frosting sitting on my kitchen counter I would eat them all. My genetics are wired for butter." I remember my mom telling me about Uncle Jack who liked to eat sticks of butter dipped in sugar. I adore butter! I used to sneak it on my toast under my peanut butter until three year old Danielle would ask What are you doing over there mom?
People are not mind readers. No one knows what you think until you tell them. I taught Linda a technique called non violent communication which helps you ask for what you need from others. You state what you are observing in the situation and how you feel. You express your need and then make a request in a gentle, caring and kind way. Remember, the number one tool that can change your life is a question.
Observation Situation: Neighbor brings over gorgeous, mouth watering, high calorie cupcakes and you just lost twenty pounds.
Feeling: Identify your feeling: I am feeling frustrated as I am trying very hard to lose weight and when cupcakes are in the house I will eat them.
Personal Need: Identify your need: I have a need for respect.
Request: What question do you need to ask?
Example: The conversation with the neighbor could go like this.
(Observation Situation) I appreciate you thinking of us and bringing over these cupcakes. I have lost twenty pounds and know if they are in the house I will eat every single one of them.
(Feeling) I feel so frustrated trying to eat healthy with high calorie foods in the house.
(Need) I have a need for respect.
(Request) Will you please stop sending treats over to our house?
Non violent communication is a way of relating to ourselves and others through an awareness of our feelings and personal needs instead of blaming or judging others. You identify the situation and how you feel then express these feelings based on what you need. Remember the number one tool that can change your life is a question. Theres an old saying, Ask and it is given. Wont it be fantastic to celebrate connections with people this summer and honor your personal needs for health and well being at the same time? You have a choice and it all starts before the food gets to your fork! Happy Summer!
For the easy to use Non Violent Communication template and more real life examples for home and work, go to my blog.
My 24th Mothers Day my favorite day of the year
We always celebrate with a brunch. This year we ate at the St. James Hotel in Stillwater, MN.
TASTE LIFE BALANCE RECIPE OF THE MONTH
Danielle loves mushrooms and Brett cant stand them. I decided to surprise Danielle and cook this chicken mushroom dish before Brett came home for the summer. My surprise? The day I was going to cook this for dinner Danielle said, By the way mom I wont be home for dinner!
This easy quick dish makes great leftovers for your lunch. It also is elegant enough to serve to company and the mushrooms provide anti aging nutrition. Mushrooms are one of the best foods you can eat to give your immunity a boost.
1 pound skinless, boneless chicken breasts, cut into quarters
1/4 cup flour
1 Tbsp. olive oil
1 pound sliced mushrooms
3/4 cup Marsala wine
Combine flour, salt and pepper in a pie plate. Coat chicken breasts with flour mixture.
Heat olive oil on medium heat in a large skillet. Cook chicken breasts until brown on both sides. Remove and set aside.
To skillet, add wine and mushrooms. Reduce heat and cook for about 10 minutes until sauce is reduced in half. Return chicken to skillet and cook for 2 to 5 more minutes.
Traditional Chicken Marsala is garnished with parsley. Every time I buy parsley it goes to waste, so I garnish entrees with sliced green onions that I always have on hand for our salads. Serve with two vegetables and warm conversation.
If you are looking for a quick low cal, low sodium, cholesterol free way to boost your immunity look no farther than the mushroom. At a mere 20 calories per handful, mushrooms are a treasure waiting to be added to your favorite dish. They provide similar nutrition more commonly found in meat, beans or grains. Read more on my blog.
Where is Cherecoach in the media and speaking?
May 1, 2010, Article Chanhassen Villager, Wind Your Energy Body Clock
May 4, 2010, NSA MN Apprentice Training Program, Speaker Showcase and Graduation
May 13, 2010, Anoka Hennepin Community Education, Creating Positive Energy for Change Workshop
Creating Positive Energy for Change Workshop for Anoka Hennepin Community Education
What participants loved best
- Variety lecture, sharing, video and positive energy
- Fun useful information and lots of laughing
- Cheres energy and all the good information I can use in my daily life
- Value cards
- Lots of good things to think about and loved Cheres personal stories
Their Action steps to be taken
- Make time for myself and be more organized (even thought I already was)
- Live in the present
- Go through my value cards and reprioritize my life to them
- Daily belief checks and getting rid of my lifes energy drains
- Filter out people who drain me
May 19, 2010, Medtronic LEARN Telephone Weight Loss Class Graduation
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~ imagine if it was one you loved.
Chere Bork, MS RD LN, Life Coach who puts LIFE in your lifestyle!
Owner of Savor Your Life Today Coaching and Seminars