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February, 2011

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TASTE LIFE
E-Newsletter, February 2011

Welcome to TASTE LIFE!! Life is easy and we make it hard. The purpose of this monthly ezine is to empower you to take charge of your health, have more work/life balance to create more time for YOU, and to fully taste the life you love.

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IN THIS ISSUE

5 Steps to Practicing Empathy
Coaching Question that Could Change Your Life
Tasting Life Real People Examples
Emotions are Contagious
Like Savor Your Life Today Fan Page
Taste Life Balance February Recipe - Rosemary Roasted Sweet Potatoes
Where is Chere Savoring Life?
Where is Chere Speaking?


FIVE STEPS TO PRACTICING EMPATHY

People get the biggest “charge” out of telling people what to do. And people have the most resistance when they are told what to do.This exercise will help you strengthen your “empathy muscle” and decrease your urge to talk. Respectful understanding and trust coming right up! Need: one talker, one listener, timer

  1. Set a timer for one minute
  2. Talker talks for one minute
  3. Listener listens for one minute without interrupting
  4. Listener summarizes the words and feelings expressed
  5. Reverse roles and repeat

CHERECOACH QUESTION THAT COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE

What do I hear and feel the other person is saying right now? (be quiet and fully listen without any judgment)

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TASTE LIFE — EXAMPLES FROM REAL PEOPLE

B, A COACHING CLIENT, WRITES:

B and I coached for only four sessions and focused on positivity (positive emotions) and abundance. She writes, “A mind is a terrible thing to waste. Mine was wasted for so long. How wonderful it is that the past is in the past. Now, today is here to embrace and grow. Put your right hand on your left shoulder and your left hand on your right shoulder--that's a hug from me! YOU ARE THE BEST!”

EFFECTIVENESS
What do you consider your wins? Freedom...happiness...well-being...balance...peace...joy

Lifestyle wins: Clean up, clear out, simplify, beautify.
Health wins: Good sleep, good food, exercise
Emotional and Relationship wins: Peace and allowing
Career wins: Eager anticipation of the results of thinking outside the box--I can be, do have anything I want
What were your initial goals? My initial goals changed dramatically. Now I want to follow my guidance system that shows me how to let my emotions steer my life.
What do you feel you have achieved since our coaching relationship began? Metamorphosis! Renaissance!

SUPPORT
On a scale of 1-10 (1 minimal, 10 excellent) how well were you supported by me?
Empathy and understanding 10
Getting to the root cause of the problem 10
Asking questions which made you think 10 Stretching you; helping you to think bigger about yourself 10
Coming up with better ideas/solutions than you would have done on your own 10
Inspiration 10
What are your goals now? Happiness

“Chere, I think about you so often and sometimes I think about "what if?"...what if I had never called Chere and started the life coaching, I would still be miserable, wasting my life. For me, it is a very sobering thought to think that one can miss out on the grand journey that life has in store for each of us. Divine Providence gives the key that can unlock the door to the life you are meant to live. Chere you are the key.”

Quit waiting to be happy and healthy and call me today 952-937-5697 to set up your 30 min energy coaching session.


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“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
—Bonnie Jean Wasmund


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EMOTIONS ARE CONTAGIOUS

February means love month, chocolate and lots of calories. What’s the best gift after chocolate? Positive emotions! Science has demonstrated that positivity is THE secret to being happy.

Positive emotions are the foundation to that positivity. All month I was paying attention to my emotions – were they positive or negative? John has been my amazing IT guy. When he was 14 years old he came over and fixed a problem on my computer - which four other computer geeks tried to fix. He is a genius. Yet no matter how many times I ask him to show me something he responds with “I have had trouble with that too Chere,” “That’s easy!” I feel listened to without judgment.

This week I heard two examples of extremely negative emotions from my clients.
Studies show that negative emotions affect our productivity and performance for four hours after the “event.” And many people have “two negative events” a day! A client didn’t feel supported and after another long discussion with her manager the client asked her manager, “Please help me understand!” (Excellent words to use) Her manager responded with, “If you would just think about it!” She felt judged and not listened to.

Another client lamented during our coaching call, “I have too much work. We look at the spreadsheet and my project adds up to 1.5 people. That is only one part of my job. I have other stuff to do. I talked to my boss and her reply was, “You’re always telling me you are working late I don’t want to hear that!” Two people asking for help. How would you respond if you were their manager? How about a response with respectful understanding? Many people confuse empathy with pity and sympathy. Or worse yet they don’t even know what empathy is. Here’s a quick primer.

Pity means grieving someone’s experience, usually because of a circumstantial hardship like a person doesn’t have enough money to buy groceries. Often pity leads to charitable contributions like giving money to a charitable organization. A person who pities is saying, “I feel sorry for you.” No one likes to be pitied.

Sympathy is identifying someone’s experience on an emotional level either a painful experience of a celebratory one. Sympathizing with someone means, “I feel your pain,” or “I share your joy.” Sympathizing with someone can make us feel sad as emotions are contagious. Sympathy can interfere with our listening as we focus on our feelings and personal needs more than the other person’s.

Empathy is not about feeling sorry for someone. It is giving the person respect and fully listening to what they are saying without judgment. You listen and appreciate the other person’s experience and clarify what they are feeling, needing and desiring. You reflect on both their verbal and non-verbal cues. Empathy is providing respectful understanding to what a person needs to help them feel better. When you provide empathy you do not interrupt, change the subject to talk about yourself, voice disapproval, criticize or give advice. When you provide empathy you tune into what is being said and the feelings behind the words- you almost feel their words. You reflect back what you heard and clarify what you heard by saying, “I hear you say…” Empathy is a win-win as it builds trust. It helps the person talking gain clarity to make a decision to take action. It will strengthen your relationship with the other person.

Positive and negative emotions are contagious. If you give empathy you will get empathy. With empathy we are saying, “I respect you.”

Communicating with empathy takes time. We are so used to immediately judging or thinking about how we are going to interrupt the other person or to tell them what we think or change the subject and tell them about our life. Giving the gift of empathy is the best gift any time of year and the best part is, it’s calorie free.

Call to Action: Next conversation you have remind yourself to listen without judgment or interruption. Go to my blog for the four key questions which will get you into the empathy mode in no time. They are recommended by Marshall Rosenberg in his book,” Nonviolent Communication.”

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TASTE LIFE BALANCE RECIPE OF THE MONTH

I invite you to join the Savor Your Life Today Fan Page for healthy recipe ideas. Post your favorite breakfast smoothie and one lucky face book fan will win the 5 Ingredients for Healthy Living Cookbook. Winner will be announced in March Taste Life Ezine. March is Nutrition Month! Oh yeah!

Rosemary Roasted Sweet Potatoes
From the 5 Ingredients for Healthy Living Cookbook

2 lbs sweet potatoes, scrubbed, sliced
3 cloves garlic, chopped
1 Tbsp fresh rosemary, chopped
2 Tbsp. olive oil
2 Tbsp. pine nuts

Preheat oven to 375F. Combine sweet potatoes, garlic, rosemary and olive oil in shallow roasting pan, tossing well to coat. Bake 45 to 50 minutes, turning potatoes halfway through cooking time. Sprinkle with salt, pepper and pine nuts before serving. Makes 6 servings
Nutrition: 179 calories; 2.5 gm protein; 6.6 gm fat; 27.5 gm CHO; 152 mg sodium

Rosemary Roasted Sweet Potato Ingredients 5 min prep - peeling potatoes and tossing with olive oil, rosemary and garlic

Easy and quick! Served with tossed salad and sub sandwich

Go to the Taste Life blog to see how how potatoes compare to potato chips (by the way my favorite food).

If you are done waiting to be healthy, order your cookbook now. Health is hope and is hope everything!

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Where is Chere savoring life?

Savoring is a quality that happy people naturally have in abundance.

Savoring = to mindfully engage in thoughts or behaviors that heighten the effect of positive events on positive feelings. There are 3 temporal forms of Savoring: (1) Anticipatory (2) In the Moment and (3) Reminiscent. We can savor a positive event before it happens by getting excited in preparation for it, we can savor the positive event as it event as it occurs and we can savor a positive event by remembering it.

Danielle, Gary and I visited Brett in Chicago where he is doing his accounting internship at Deloitte.

A Chere Home-Run. Favorite thing in the world:
Eating, talking and being with the people I love. . .

Gary and Dave. . . Two men who work out
more than anyone I know and look like it

Snow everywhere from Chicago blizzard -
the irony of this sign inside Pizzaria Due


Where is Cherecoach in the media and speaking?

February 1, 2011, Institute for Professional Speaker Development, National Speaker Association Minnesota Chapter, Co-facilitator of the 2010 – 2011 Apprentice Program, Promoting Yourself

February 3, 2011 , Article Chanhassen Villager, What Kind of Future are Your Habits Creating?

February 8, 2011 Southwest MetroChamber of Commerce, Be Your Valentine, Chanhassen, MN

February 10, 2011, Women In Leisure, Zeta Chapter, Chi Kappa Rho, Inc Energy is the Currency of a Happy Life, St. Louis Park, MN

February 17, 2011, Midwest Society of Association Executives Speaker Showcase, Plymouth, MN

Gaye and I volunteered with our fabulous NSA MN Apprentices as hosts in the speaker rooms
Featured: Dave Klun, Tammy Laurent, Chere,
Sarah Ruzek Director of Education for MSAE (Miss Organized)
Gaye Lindfors, Liz Chrisinger and Sparkie Ciriacy, Kim Pappas


February 19, 2011, J and C Speaker School, Product Development

J and C Speaker School – We learned all about product development from two masters.
Featured: Ron Jensen, Janie Jasin, Chere, Jan Jenkins, Chez Raginiak


If you or your team are feeling overwhelmed, and out of time you need the presentation I have just developed — Tasting Life Balance In Your Value Driven World. This presentation uses the new Value Card deck to identify your values and get your time back. Call me today (952-937-5697) as I am booking events for spring and the summer. Living your values will create energy and productivity. I promise!

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You only have one life to live
~ imagine if it was one you loved.

Chere Bork, MS RD LN, Life Coach who puts LIFE in your lifestyle!
Owner of Savor Your Life Today Coaching and Seminars