Change Your Life this Year – Dump Your To Do List and Focus on Your Be List

In January we try to reinvent ourselves and make big, bold resolutions. But, we mess up and start all over again, again and again. This year try something that works…focus on being instead of doing!  Let me explain. My coaching philosophy with clients has been to work on the “who” to get “what they want.” Focus on who you want to be and you will get the results you want. So this year instead of focusing on a big resolution list of actions, focus on your attitude, your positivity and what makes you happy. 

Sharon is an entrepreneur, author and owner of a successful diabetes wellness business. Her years of hard work were at the expense of her having a life. This year she is choosing a new approach as she dumps her traditional big to do list and instead focuses on who she wants to be. She wants to be more relaxed, more organized and more spontaneous. Her relaxed looks like doing fewer things that annoy her like everyday tasks. She feels if she organizes herself with her everyday tasks she will be more relaxed. She has complained for years of being too busy when her friends call.  She wants to be able to enjoy friends when they call her.

So, how do you start?  

 

 

 

 

 

But life is usually like this:
  • DO – Do all the “things” like school, degree, “the job”
  • To HAVE – The big house, a car, and a vacation and iPad
  • Then …    You think…   You can BE – Happy!!!  But are you?

 

Instead:
  • BE: I need to BE the BEST I can BE
  • DO: To DO what I need to DO
  • HAVE: To HAVE what I need to HAVE

 

  1. First, identify who you want to be. My being words this year are abundant grace.
  2.  Second identify what you need to do. I need to make a difference by OR I value being a mom by doing.
  3. Third identify what you want to have. I want to have a happy healthy family OR I want to earn six figures and still sit down to dinner with my family OR I want to HAVE resilience and make each day my best no matter what

Maybe for years you have been waiting for that perfect relationship or a happier marriage or better job. Think different this year. Who would that person need to be to attract what you want? You do not need anyone or anything to tell you how to become who you want to be.  You know deep in your heart.   Trust that person. And, remember it is never too late to become that person.

This year put 80% of your life efforts on being and 20% on doing and I promise you will reach your goals with ease and grace. Because when you are BEING all that you intend, you will DO as you intend. The best part – you will love your life again. I don’t care what it takes, just do it today. You have one life to live, just imagine if it was one you loved!