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I love the work of John Gottman who is a marriage researcher who has psychologically dissected hundreds of married couples. He authored a book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work that many feel is the bible for marital bliss.

He videotaped married couples and systematically observed how they behaved and talked to each other. He followed them over time to see what happened in their relationship. He is able to predict with 91 percent accuracy which

• Partings:  Before these couples say goodbye every morning, they find out one thing that each is going to do that day

(2 mins x 5 days = 10 mins)

• Reunions:  At the end of each workday, the couples have a low stress reunion conversation.

(20 mins x 5 days = 1 hour, 40 mins)

•  Affection:  Touching, grabbing, holding and kissing – all laced with tenderness and forgiveness.

                                                 (5 mins x 7 days = 35 mins)

• One Weekly Date:  Just the two of you in a relaxed atmosphere, updating your love.

             (2 hours once a week)

• Admiration and Appreciation:  Every day, genuine affection and appreciation is given at least once.

            (5 mins x 7 days = 35 mins)