“Chere, you are either on or off.” Gary was right. He was right. I was either “on” and accomplishing or “off” and sleeping in my bed (my favorite place in the world) until I started this “coaching thing.” Back in 2000 my very first life coach, Mary Ann Edberg, suggested I “do 15 minutes of Chere time” every day. I thought what a crazy idea. Of course I have 15 minutes each day where I do as I please. For the past 16 years I have continued this self care daily habit. Looking at the clock and doing something for me for 15 minutes each day was odd at first. The first few years I kept a list on my computer entitled “me time.” Sometimes the day would FLY by and my 15-minute me time wasn’t done. I would hop in my car and drive around and look at flowers (I love gardening) which eventually led to taking pictures and creating a photo album of future flower pots I want to plant. (I also met quite a few people who wondered who the heck I was taking pictures of their flower pots in their yards.)
This 15 minute me time is what I call my medium speed – where JOY lives. I DO, DO, DO all day every day and I am “ON” or what I call my ACCOMPLISHMENT speed. I absolutely delight in what I do and want everyone I know to be happier, healthier, and more content which means I could do this “coaching thing” (as Gary calls it) 12 hours every day. Then, I am too tired to find my joy speed.
I believe life balance is 3 speeds. OFF – sleeping, ON – accomplishing, and MEDIUM– the JOY SPEED. People know all about the accomplishing speed like going to college, getting a job, and “the house”. Having the kids excel at school. Buying “the” car and going on a great spring break vacation. But do you ever think about your joy speed? For a truly enJOYable life you can’t be on the accomplish speed all the time. The joy speed is living in today, celebrating time with people you cherish, taking your 15 minutes of “me time” every day. Being on the accomplishment speed all the time leads to job burnout, an unhappy spouse, kids who beg for more of your time, gaining weight, and feeling like you are never ever done.
When was the last time you enjoyed a day where you were all three speeds? You were “on” and accomplished at home or work. You had 15 minutes of “me time” and you enjoyed your “joy speed” and turned “off” at a decent time and went to bed.
My clients try to use all 3 speeds every day. And, guess what? They show up lovin’ life, attract more possibilities, and attain more of their goals like magic. A client wrote, “The more fun I have the more business I create.”
My own intention every day is to go to bed with no regrets. No regrets mean I have had time to be on the joy speed and taking that “me time.”
Joy speed means taking the time to bake special blueberry pies for special friends .
Your joy speed is waiting – you just need to turn it on. Don’t you have 15 minutes – it’s your ONLY life.
In August, I wrote this article for the Eden Prairie Newspaper and Chanhassen Villager and I after wrote it I realized I did not have enough joy. So, I resigned from being a newspaper columnist, starting taking every Friday off and focused on a life filled with ease and grace. I created a mantra. Do less. Be more and give love. It feels great! I have let go of nagging anxiety about what I am supposed to do instead focusing on what I want to do. I want that for you.
In September I am offering two coaching spots at my 2016 coaching rate of $350.00 for two 45 minute sessions each month a savings of $50.00 each month. I ask for a 90 day commitment so we can create your plan, to give you more joy and take out the junk that is bothering you.
Please email me today for your 30 minute complimentary coaching session to see if we are a good fit. I can only provide 2 complimentary coaching sessions as I am working on my joy speed!!
September is made for new beginnings. Start today.
You have one life to live, just imagine it was one you truly loved!
How do you “do” your joy speed? We can’t wait to hear!